Pastoral Care

How to navigate ‘Girl World’ and all that it entails…

Adolescence is a time of rapid change and navigating a range of boundaries with your daughter. One day, you wake up and think, “My daughter is now a teenager and not a little girl anymore. What am I going to do?” It is also a time when your daughter wants greater independence, more freedom and a need to fit in and connect with her friends.

‘Girl World’ is intense for your daughter; it can be frustrating for everyone, a time that centres around spending time with others, working out who they are, traversing the social media sphere of texts, instant messages, photographs and making sense of friendships which can be fantastic one day and then completely different the next. Your daughter’s best friend might like her on Monday, won’t be speaking to her by Wednesday and whilst you are trying to make sense of everything, it is all back to normal by Friday. And I haven’t forgotten the various sighs, eye rolls and slamming of doors that might go along the way.

It begs the question: why do girls so often reject their parents and turn to their friends instead, even when those friends can treat them so cruelly? They want to desperately fit in, to not be alone, and they crave connection. Once upon a time you were the definitive source of information, but now you have no clue. So what do you do and who can you turn to for advice?

At Loreto Normanhurst, parent partnerships are critical and we have a comprehensive Pastoral Care support network for you. This includes the roles of the Advisor, Tutor, Head of House, Counsellors, Dean of Pastoral Care and the Director of Pastoral Care. I would like to specifically refer to the roles of the Advisor, Tutor and Head of House.

The Advisor

To assist Years 7 and 8 students in settling into Secondary School,  they work closely with an Advisor who is also part of their House. They teach your daughter Integrated Learning and track student progress across the FACE curriculum – Faith, Academic, Community and Extra-curricular. The Advisor also conducts Conversations with your daughter.

The Tutor

Students in Years 9, 10, 11 and 12 meet regularly with their Tutor for Conversations. They see their Tutor every Monday, Tuesday, Thursday and Friday.

If matters arise which require further attention beyond these Conversations, then it will be brought to the attention of your daughter’s Head of House.

Head of House

Your daughter’s Head of House works closely with the Advisors and Tutors in the overall holistic care and management of your daughter’s needs at school. Each Head of House works closely with the Dean and Director of Pastoral Care where necessary.

If you have any concerns or questions, the best place to start is with your daughter’s Advisor (if your daughter is in Years 7 or 8) or her Tutor (if your daughter is in Years 9,10,11 and 12). I would like you to ask your daughter who her ‘go to’ people are at school. If she does not name anyone then ask her to discuss this with her Advisor or Tutor or more importantly, let us know so we can help her traverse her ‘Girl World’ as best we can.


Resources of interest

  • Queen Bees & Wannabes by Rosalind Wiseman is a fascinating read into the lives of cliques, friendship dynamics and navigating a teenager’s world.
  • The Princess Bitchface Syndrome 2.0 is an insightful read by Michael Carr-Gregg and Elly Robinson and it focuses on how to raise teenagers in an ever increasing technological world.

Both resources have been around for a while, however, they are insightful and very easy to digest.


Conversations this week:

Year 12

Tutor Conversations

Year 11

On Exams

Year 10

Laptop Care Conversation with Heads of House

Year 9

The Benefits of Sport Conversation with Mr Mulroney

Year 8

Learning to Learn Program with Year 8 Team

Year 7

Digital Clean Up Conversation with Year 7 Team


Upcoming Events

Year 7 Vaccinations Tuesday 11 September |  Gymasium 
9.30am to 2.30pm
Year 11 Student Council Leadership Weekend 15 September to 16 September
Vaccinations Tuesday 18 September | Gymnasium
9.30am to 2.30pm
Leadership Day Monday 24 September
Year 11 Retreat 25 September to 27 September
Various Locations


Please feel free to contact me here if you have any questions or concerns.


Mr Justin Madigan

Dean of Pastoral Care